SID: You know, Ken, most people don’t realize what God is up to. God wants a family. What does he mean by that?
KEN: Well you think about how the earth was created. God made a man and God later made a woman, and so a marriage starts the entire Bible. So we have the Bible beginning with a marriage, and then at the end of the Bible, we see that there’s an event called the Marriage Supper of the Lamb, which is a seven-year celebration in Heaven with Jesus and the Church where we enjoy seeing, meeting him face to face, other people, and we eat for seven years, which is awesome. So the Bible begins with a marriage and it ends with a marriage, and then the story is about this family that is very dysfunctional, but God continues to love them and work with them until he can work redemption’s plan.
SID: Okay. God wants a family. The devil wants the opposite of what God wants. Most marriages don’t know that in addition to their own differences there is a devil. Ken, what are the differences between men and women, briefly?
KEN: Well, men are headliners. We like the facts. We were created by God to be leaders. And so we just want to blow through life, but then women are more detailers. Women get into the details of life. They think more out of both sides of the brain, whereas men are more think out of the one side, which is a logical side. Women see things that men don’t. The Bible said when Adam was in the garden alone, it’s not good that this man is alone, so I’m going to give him a help mate, “help mate”, it says in King James.
SID: You know, in most marriages the differences cause a war rather than realizing by pulling the two together they’re better than any individual. As a matter of fact, why do you believe the devil hates marriage so much? I mean, it’s coming out more so today than ever before in history.
KEN: Right. It’s because marriage is designed to be the foundation of everything in life. And of course, the devil wants to get to the foundation. In fact, the scripture says in Psalm 11, “If the foundations are destroyed, what can the righteous do?” That’s talking about righteous people through Jesus.
SID: Is there any family, say children that are totally rebellious, husbands that are at war with their wives, not realizing the war is coming from the invisible world? Yes, there are these differences, but there really is a devil and he’s really fighting you. And rather than falling over and playing dead, you’re saying there’s something that can be done about it. Is there such a thing as a hopeless marriage, a hopeless relationship with children?
KEN: No, I don’t believe that. I believe if you will apply the principles of God, know what the Word says and then grit your teeth sometimes to apply those principles and understand that a husband’s greatest gift to his wife is to love and care for her.
SID: What does it mean to you, to you, Trudi, when your husband loves you unconditionally?
TRUDI: It brings security. It brings hope, stability. And you know, when your husband is loving you it’s easy to submit to that because there’s no fear there. You’re not afraid you’re going to get hurt or trampled on, or mistreated because that’s not the behavior that Jesus would treat the church like. So when you see how he treats the church and that he sacrificed and loved it, and gave his life for it, when a husband has that attitude about his wife and she knows that, she will jump off a cliff with him because she knows then that the two of them together are going to create something that’s very strong and loving, and it produces that strong foundation.
KEN: In fact, the word “love”, love is not just a romantic thing, although it’s part of it, but the word “love” in the Hebrew language actually means I will give.
SID: Now you tell me, Ken, about the spiritual security system. What is that?
KEN: Well it’s like, I liken it this way. Our house has a security system that we arm and when we arm it, it protects the perimeters. But if I don’t arm the security system, which is my job, I have to arm it, I have to make sure that I do my part, then it sets up boundaries around my house that can’t be penetrated. Well God has designed his Word to be like that. When we learn how to act on his Word in our family, when we learn how to in our marriage give and take, when we learn how to. the importance of protecting our kids and watching over them and setting perimeters in their life, we are setting up a security system around our family that the enemy will try to penetrate, and it’s an ongoing, daily thing that we must do and be proactive with.
SID: What is the first thing someone should do to devil-proof their home?
KEN: Well the first thing is you don’t cooperate with him. You don’t give him permission.
SID: No one is going to give him permission.
KEN: We give him permission when we don’t act on the Word of God, when we don’t do what the Bible says to do.
SID: It’s time to stop rolling over, playing dead, giving up. There is hope and I want to inject that to you supernaturally. When we come back, I want you to understand there’s even a psalm that gives you the full plan to devil-proof your marriage. Be right back.